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Justbecause2016- TxSoccer Poster
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Guest101- TxSoccer Poster
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ElClassico wrote:They're not stepping up because they're not sure the kid would be in agreement. So they're afraid of ruining what they have even if the current situation isn't perfect.
Can't help parents who don't want to step up and be parents...
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Justbecause2016 wrote:It is rediculous how many parents are scared to look elsewhere and to simply talk to other coaches because they are afraid of their current coach retaliating!
Ridiculous
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Guest101 wrote:There are coaches who's ego will not allow them to handle rejection
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bwgophers wrote:ElClassico wrote:They're not stepping up because they're not sure the kid would be in agreement. So they're afraid of ruining what they have even if the current situation isn't perfect.
Can't help parents who don't want to step up and be parents...
"100!!"
Sometimes parents establish a "false" friendship/relationship with the coach and that's when the dilemma is created...
That same coach will reduce your daughters playing time if and when another star comes along.
No coach past, present, or future will turn away a talented kid nor will they turn away a valid payment.
You wouldn't consider leaving anyway if the situation was ideal for your kid.
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If you are unhappy and have one foot out the door, you expect the coach to hold your position in case you can't find something better? If the season isn't over, but you have commented that you will be looking, he shouldn't focus on players who have shown an interest in returning to his team?
And even if you are just "checking out other options" - if you have shown an interest in leaving, why shouldn't the coach start looking at his plans for next season?
How's that work when you tell you wife or girlfriend "I'm loyal to you - just want to check out the other goodies and see if I am missing anything."?
How about at your job?
If you have expressed interest in "looking for a different (better) option", why shouldn't the coach?
Put on your big boy pants and take some responsibility - if you were on my team and looking elsewhere, I would hope my coach was working on a replacement!
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Every player needs to think of what they want, if a child wants to be the best they need to put in the work, and perform.
Parents need to be honest about their kids level of play. If their kid isn't progressing with the rest of the team they need to consider moving to where they'll get the playing time they desire, not ask the team to accommodate them.
Also, if a player is clearly more capable than the majority of a team, then they need to move on, a good Coach will aid in that navigation process.
That said, players commit to teams and coaches need to commit to players for the full season. While Coaches need to train every player with equal enthusiasm, that doesn't mean they should play equal minutes.
I tell my kids regularly that they need to earn their position and earn their minutes.
If Coaches, Parents and players can get this concept down, teams would improve much more quickly. Nepotism doesn't belong in competitive sports.
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