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Post by Justbecause2016 25/04/17, 06:46 pm

It is rediculous how many parents are scared to look elsewhere and to simply talk to other coaches because they are afraid of their current coach retaliating!

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Post by Guest 25/04/17, 06:49 pm

Can't help parents who don't want to step up and be parents, and look out for the best interests of their kids... Rolling Eyes

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Post by ElClassico 25/04/17, 10:24 pm

They're not stepping up because they're not sure the kid would be in agreement. So they're afraid of ruining what they have even if the current situation isn't perfect.
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Post by Guest101 25/04/17, 11:16 pm

There are coaches who's ego will not allow them to handle rejection


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Post by Guest 25/04/17, 11:29 pm

ElClassico wrote:They're not stepping up because they're not sure the kid would be in agreement. So they're afraid of ruining what they have even if the current situation isn't perfect.

Can't help parents who don't want to step up and be parents...

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Post by coachdom23 26/04/17, 07:29 am

Justbecause2016 wrote:It is rediculous how many parents are scared to look elsewhere and to simply talk to other coaches because they are afraid of their current coach retaliating!

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Post by SickofStupidity 26/04/17, 08:03 am

Guest101 wrote:There are coaches who's ego will not allow them to handle rejection

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Post by NoSpinZone 26/04/17, 08:12 am

Of course if you are happy with your team and coach, I doubt you want your dd's teammates practicing or playing with everyone in NTX.  So, if you are one foot out the door, coach retaliating isn't the best, but if you happy with team, then you certainly hope there is retaliation.  Leave if your kid isnt happy(not the parent).

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Post by AngelinaGoalee 26/04/17, 08:15 am

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ElClassico wrote:They're not stepping up because they're not sure the kid would be in agreement. So they're afraid of ruining what they have even if the current situation isn't perfect.

Can't help parents who don't want to step up and be parents...

"100!!"

Sometimes parents establish a "false" friendship/relationship with the coach and that's when the dilemma is created...

That same coach will reduce your daughters playing time if and when another star comes along.

No coach past, present, or future will turn away a talented kid nor will they turn away a valid payment.

You wouldn't consider leaving anyway if the situation was ideal for your kid.

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Post by wazup 26/04/17, 08:21 am

I like how this was characterized as "retaliation" -

If you are unhappy and have one foot out the door, you expect the coach to hold your position in case you can't find something better?  If the season isn't over, but you have commented that you will be looking, he shouldn't focus on players who have shown an interest in returning to his team?

And even if you are just "checking out other options" - if you have shown an interest in leaving, why shouldn't the coach start looking at his plans for next season?

How's that work when you tell you wife or girlfriend "I'm loyal to you - just want to check out the other goodies and see if I am missing anything."?

How about at your job?

If you have expressed interest in "looking for a different (better) option", why shouldn't the coach?

Put on your big boy pants and take some responsibility - if you were on my team and looking elsewhere, I would hope my coach was working on a replacement!

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Post by Guest 26/04/17, 08:40 am

I picture the OP doing a Jerry Maguire: Who's coming with me?

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Post by Uwon't 26/04/17, 10:24 am

Thought the same thing, looks like the coup didn't go all that well. The only people near a NTx soccer field without an ego or agenda is the kids, remember that and you will be just fine. Good luck in your journey.

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Post by playerpass666 30/04/17, 08:06 am

I wouldn't completely agree with your statement UWONT. You must not have made it around to the Sting Black games this year. Talk about egos. I wonder where the kids learn that behavior.
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Post by KeeperCommander 30/04/17, 09:00 am

Only things guaranteed in soccer: There will be games and yes you will have to pay for them.

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Post by 1st2it 04/05/17, 12:29 pm

Too many coaches are more interested in their own BIOs than they are the kids they coach. If they aren't prepared to push their players in the direction that's best for each individually then they don't belong coaching. (that might mean moving to a more competitive team, or a lesser one) If every MLB, NFL, MLS player stayed on a team so they didn't hurt their Coach's feelings, they would probably never have made it to the big leagues.
Every player needs to think of what they want, if a child wants to be the best they need to put in the work, and perform.
Parents need to be honest about their kids level of play. If their kid isn't progressing with the rest of the team they need to consider moving to where they'll get the playing time they desire, not ask the team to accommodate them.
Also, if a player is clearly more capable than the majority of a team, then they need to move on, a good Coach will aid in that navigation process.
That said, players commit to teams and coaches need to commit to players for the full season. While Coaches need to train every player with equal enthusiasm, that doesn't mean they should play equal minutes.
I tell my kids regularly that they need to earn their position and earn their minutes.
If Coaches, Parents and players can get this concept down, teams would improve much more quickly. Nepotism doesn't belong in competitive sports.

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