Tournament Fee Question

Its Me wrote:

4eversoccer wrote:@ inthenet - you are correct. Posting on here did not help the situation, and was not appreciated. This was made clear when I was told "Having an issue or questions and bringing them up is one thing. Doing it the way you did only fosters dissension. It may have been forgivable if it had been left at that. Unfortunately, you chose to blog this issue and invite the entire metroplex to get involved (there is no anonymity). Right or wrong, your approach is unforgivable and I won't allow your pettiness on the team."

@ newtothis - my daughter is a select player, not academy.

To the many who've asked me to expose them, I've thought about it and am angry enough to do so, but it would only prove the coach right...that I am "what I (he) suspected you (I) were capable of in the first place."

I have not mentioned the club, the team, the coach, the manager, or even the age group. Whether or not I handled this the right way no longer matters. My character and integrity was assassinated by the coach when my e-mail directly to our team manager was forwarded to both coaches, the Club Director and his wife (also a team manager). The curteous and professional explaination i was looking for did come from the other team manager, but it was too late. By then, many hurtful things were said, and my daughter was told she will never play for them again. I can't fault the club, as I said, we were happy there and my daughter wanted to return.

I believe that this forumn should be a place you can ask questions about select/academy situations. I've had kids in select for 5 or 6 years and the first time I heard that we had to pay for our coaches room and meals I was shocked. So, I think your question was fair and this should be the correct spot to answer questions.

However, in the future I would reread your post to verify that no one can identify you.
I would NOT mention the coach or team name. Just like you're doing, take the high road and mark this as experience.
Also, you don't want your DD going to the new team and parents talking about your post and marking you as a troublemaker. NTX soccer community is a smaller world.

Good luck and I'm sure you'll find a better team for your daughter.
Teams are always looking for good keepers.

4eversoccer wrote:@ Interpreter -

Yes, I can see how that could be perceived, but I did bring this up to the Team Manager first, then posted second. I was upset, didn't know the rules, and was given only a vague explanation when I asked the first time.

The accusations from the coach came yesterday for the first time. I had no idea that he thought negative of me. I've never had a confrontation with him or the team manager about anything. I've never had it out with any parents. We only got to really know 2 sets of parents on that team, 1 girl was released in Jan/Feb, the other missed most of the spring season due to injury. To my knowledge, the 2nd girl was never released, but the coach accused me yesterday of telling her parents about her release because of a loud coversation he had a practice with the team manager that several parents overheard. I DID ask the parent if she was released, but was told no and even asked the team mgr as late as LAST Saturday how the girl was doing and if she was coming to the game or tournaments. As I said, we were friends. I am just as lost as you on why I've been accused of doing things I haven't done. And, no, I'm not taking it likely and am taking things under advisement. Please keep in mind that no conversations ever took place in person and everything was said in writing. I have tried to keep this as anonymous as possible to protect the club, the asst. coach and the girls & parents who have done nothing wrong and are innocent in this. This was never about my daughter, it was a personal attack against me. I'm a big girl and can take the criticism.